Therapy for adults navigating anxiety, identity shifts, and changing relationships.
I’m Tamryn Kobayashi, an intern psychotherapist in Washington.
I believe that the patterns we develop in our earliest relationships continue to shape how we experience ourselves and others, often long after we think we’ve moved on.
Therapy with me isn’t just about talking through problems. It’s relational and collaborative. We pay attention to the patterns in your life, in your body, and in the space between us.
I draw from different approaches depending on what you need, with attention to all parts of you. As you begin to see these patterns more clearly, you gain more choice in how you respond. That’s where meaningful change happens.
It is a joy to be hidden and a disaster to not be found. - DW WinnicottYou don’t have to know exactly what’s wrong but you might recognize yourself in some of these experiences:
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Feeling anxious, avoidant, or unsure in close relationships
Patterns that repeat despite insight or effort
Longing for closeness while also protecting yourself
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Chronic self-criticism or shame
Feeling “not enough” or fundamentally flawed
Difficulty accessing self-compassion
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Anxiety, low mood, or emotional numbness
Feeling overwhelmed or shut down
Trouble settling or feeling safe in your body
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Emotional neglect or inconsistency growing up
Feeling unseen, unprotected, or parentified
Carrying responsibility too early
Many people come to therapy feeling unsettled, stuck, or disconnected, without a clear diagnosis or label. You might be functioning well on the outside, yet feeling more anxious or reactive than you used to be. You might not be sure how therapy would help you or feel hesitant about finding someone who understands you.
It can feel vulnerable to reach out, especially when you’re not sure whether the chemistry will be there. I offer a free 15-minute consultation so we can see whether working together feels like a good fit and so you can ask any questions you may have.
You might feel at home here if…
You’ve tried things that were ‘supposed’ to help but you are still struggling.
You long to feel more free, to find a new version of yourself who is grounded and at peace.
Anxiety feels like your baseline and you can’t remember how to relax.
I work primarily with adults whose early relational experiences continue to shape how they move through the world.
Often this doesn’t look dramatic. It can look like anxiety that doesn’t quite make sense. Self-doubt that feels out of proportion. Difficulty trusting, even when you want to. A persistent sense of longing.
You may find yourself replaying conversations, wondering if you asked for too much or not enough.
You may have learned early that relying on yourself was safer than relying on anyone else.
And sometimes, what stands out most is what doesn’t stand out — gaps in memory, or the quiet feeling that something important was missing.
If you’re not sure whether your experiences “count,” that uncertainty itself often belongs here.
Clinical Formation
I have spent the past several years working in high-acuity mental health settings, supporting individuals navigating eating disorders, trauma, addiction, and complex relational patterns.
My clinical training includes a concentration in British object relations and a year-long infant observation, experiences that continue to shape how I listen and think about development, attachment, and the therapeutic relationship.
I am also completing EMDR training, integrating trauma-informed approaches alongside depth-oriented work.
But how do I go about choosing a therapist? There are so many to choose from and it feels too overwhelming to decide on one. Some ideas…