Therapy for people who want things to be different.

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I’m Tamryn Kobayashi, a therapist in Bellevue, Washington.

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I know what it’s like to feel stuck and unfulfilled in your life. And I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be this way.

I help people understand themselves in a way that actually changes how they live and relate.

I help people navigate various topics including:

Anxiety and depression, relationship issues and coping skills.

Attachment wounds, childhood neglect, divorce and women’s issues.

Substance use, ADHD, eating disorders, nervous system dysregulation.

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You don’t have to know exactly what’s wrong but you might recognize yourself in some of these experiences:

    • Feeling anxious, avoidant, or unsure in close relationships

    • Patterns that repeat despite insight or effort

    • Longing for closeness while also protecting yourself

    • Chronic self-criticism or shame

    • Feeling “not enough” or fundamentally flawed

    • Difficulty accessing self-compassion

    • Anxiety, low mood, or emotional numbness

    • Feeling overwhelmed or shut down

    • Trouble settling or feeling safe in your body

    • Emotional neglect or inconsistency growing up

    • Feeling unseen, unprotected, or parentified

    • Carrying responsibility too early

When something important was missing

I work with many adults whose early relational experiences continue to shape how they move through the world.

Often this doesn’t look dramatic. It can look like anxiety that doesn’t seem to make sense or self-doubt that feels out of proportion. It might be difficulty trusting, even when you want to or a persistent sense of longing.

You may find yourself replaying conversations, wondering if you asked for too much or not enough. You may have learned early that relying on yourself was safer than relying on anyone else.

And sometimes, what stands out most is what doesn’t stand out — gaps in memory, or the quiet feeling that something important was missing.

If you’re not sure whether your experiences “count,” that uncertainty often belongs here.