Attachment-focused therapy for anxiety, trauma, and relationship patterns

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I’m Tamryn Kobayashi, a therapist in Bellevue, Washington.

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Sometimes people come to therapy because something feels missing, even if they can’t fully explain why.

They may find themselves overthinking relationships, replaying conversations, struggling to trust their own reactions, or feeling emotionally overwhelmed in ways that seem disproportionate from the outside.

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I help people navigate various topics including:

  • Anxiety and depression, relationship difficulties, and coping with life transitions.

  • Attachment wounds, childhood neglect, emotional neglect, and nervous system dysregulation.

  • Self-doubt, shame, emotional overwhelm, and longstanding relational patterns.

  • Eating disorders, substance use, ADHD, and experiences of feeling stuck despite insight.

  • Divorce, women’s issues, and the lasting impact of painful or emotionally confusing relationships.

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You don’t have to know exactly what’s wrong but you might recognize yourself in some of these experiences:

    • fear of abandonment

    • difficulty trusting

    • people-pleasing

    • overthinking relationships

    • emotional loneliness

    • repeating painful relational patterns

    • racing thoughts

    • nervous system dysregulation

    • chronic stress

    • emotional flooding

    • feeling “too much” or shut down

    • difficulty slowing down internally

    • difficulty trusting yourself

    • shame/self-criticism

    • feeling disconnected from yourself

    • masking or overfunctioning

    • struggling to know what you feel or need

    • Emotional neglect or inconsistency growing up

    • Feeling unseen, unprotected, or parentified

    • Carrying responsibility too early

When something important was missing

I work with many adults who feel the lasting impact of early relational experiences in their current relationships, emotions, and sense of self.

Often this can look like anxiety that doesn’t seem to make sense or self-doubt that feels out of proportion. It might be difficulty trusting, even when you want to or a persistent sense of longing.

You may find yourself replaying conversations, wondering if you asked for too much or not enough. You may have learned early that relying on yourself was safer than relying on anyone else.

And sometimes, what stands out most is what doesn’t stand out — gaps in memory, or the quiet feeling that something important was missing.

If you’re not sure whether your experiences “count,” that uncertainty often belongs here.

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